People come and go. But, in all actuality, we must all go one day. However, no one wants to hear that. Especially when it comes to a loved on or close friend.
You can read books, write poetry, or even find a hobby that can help during the grieving process. Should that work? That’s up to you and your interests. Losing someone is like a roller coaster. You’re with them when their sick. Then, you hit to that middle stage when they’re getting really sick and can’t do anything to help them. Next, you’re going downhill to make the few moments last.
It’s scary, complicated, heartbreaking and a bit confusing. Whether it’s a spouse, parent, best friend or pet; it’s never easy losing someone. The entire experience is very much of an impact and filled with lessons that you didn’t know before. Think of it like a cut. You have the first few weeks where it’s going to hurt. Then, with time, you begin to heal.
Grief is something that is often overlooked. Some people morn by being silent, removing themselves from people and simply sticking to themselves. Others, act as if nothing is wrong, cheerful and put up a front. Regardless of how you cope with losing someone, I have learned that it’s always best to express yourself that works for YOU.
Below, are just a few helpful tips to help you deal with the lose of your loved one.
- LET IT OUT: You don’t have to be a #hardass all of the time. It’s okay to let lose and let your emotions go. Don’t fight it. If you keep it all bottled up, it will eventually come out; either negatively or positively. It’s normal to cry. We’re human.
- TALK IT OUT: Now is the time to turn to someone close that you can confide in. Do you have someone to talk to you? If not, speak to a therapist. It may be uncomfortable at first because you’re sharing so much with someone that you just met. But, it can be very therapeutic.
- GRIEF TO YOUR OWN TIME: There is no amount of time that you should take to get over the lose of your loved one. Whether it takes months, years or you may never get over it; that’s okay. Don’t rush the process because you think you should’ve moved past it.
- THINK AHEAD: Just because you lost someone, doesn’t mean you have to forget about them. Put them first with everything that you do. Are you feeling stuck or unmotivated? Use them as a driving force to push yourself to do better and to make them proud. It’s harder to feel like you let them down than making them proud of your accomplishments.