We Are Not The Same

When it comes to the topic of “Gender Differences” it is very likely for one to point out the obvious differences in anatomy. Not only do genders have distinct body parts that differ, but similarities that are often overlooked. Gender differences, double standards, and stereotypes go hand in hand. People regularly assume things based on gender that often seem to be true, but some research shows otherwise.  However, it is important to remember that these statements are much more than just the people we know. Many assume that women are more emotional than men, but are men simply better at hiding their feelings? When considering such things do we look at the science aspects of why? For example, hormones and how we are programmed differently. Do we base it solely off of how society and the media has shaped us?

Touching on intimacy, it seems as if with sex comes an emotional attachment for women whereas with men it is more than likely just physical. We are deemed to be emotionally attached than males when it comes to feelings post sexual encounter. After numerous conversations, I noticed repetitive responses from people that I asked about their feelings emotionally and physically. Majority of the males said that the only things they feel, as far as an emotion, would have to do with a slight attraction, “great”, “accomplished” or something along those lines. Most females said that sex makes them want to be serious with a guy; with the exception of lustful or spontaneous moments. Few of the males I spoke with said that they enjoyed some type of emotional interaction after sex like, cuddling. However, the majority remained emotionless, preferring not to cuddle or engage in any other “emotional” activities. I even observed the diction used when people responded. The males were using more harsh terms such as “f**k” while some females brought up the term “make love”.

Oxytocin is a hormone that is made in the brain and released by the pituitary gland. This hormone is sometimes referred to as the “love hormone” which is released through a woman’s bloodstream during labor. This hormone creates the bond between mother and child, thus creating that attachment. It is also said that Oxytocin is known as the “cuddling” or “trust” hormone that is released from the body during times of any kind of social bonding and behavior including sex. So this raises the question of whether or not the feelings are genuine or if it’s simply because of this hormone.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the term “walk of shame”. Essentially, this term refers to the walk you have to take back home after a spontaneous sexual encounter. Women are prone to feel embarrassed or ashamed afterwards because we are the ones that tend to overthink certain situations we are placed in. Men on the other hand, may think of it as the “stride of pride” because they’ve done a job well done; here it is evident of the double standards we’ve created.

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