Is there a set time for you to fall in love?
Celebrity couples like Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson, Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin and Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra all getting engaged in less than two months of being together, many people are quick to tell them it’s too soon. With such short relationships, some don’t believe that you can fall in love and find your soulmate in such a short amount of time. But aren’t we also the kind of society that believes in “love at first sight?” Don’t we believe in that moment where you know that your partner is “the one?” So why do we ridicule people when they have realized their in love after a shorter amount of time?
When I was 14 and a freshman in high school, I read an article that discussed when you know if you are in love with your boyfriend. The piece told me that I couldn’t know until we had been together for at least two months, so I shouldn’t tell him until then. So when my boyfriend told me he loved me after a month, I said that my favorite magazine said we can’t love each other until we make it another month, so we could revisit the conversation when time comes (needless to say we did break up but for other reasons, but that’s a different story.)
As I look back, I ask myself constantly why I let a magazine tell me when I should and shouldn’t love a person. Why do others feel the need to express to us that things could be moving too quickly and that there’s no possible way that love could be something we feel? I’m here to give you all a serious reality check – there is no right or wrong time to realize you love someone.
Every person, and relationship, is different. Some may feel an instant connection to one another and realize that they have found the person they’ve been searching for their whole life. Others may take their time and enjoy just getting to know their partner over the span of months on end. Whether it takes two weeks, two months or two years, the amount of time it takes for a person to figure out that they love their partner is not something that should be predetermined by society.
When someone expresses their love for another, it takes a lot of courage to do so. Allowing yourself to love someone can make you vulnerable, but it can also make you brave. It can make you nervous, but also excited. It can make you weak, but also strong. But when we decide that we are ready to feel all of those things, and we are able to take those giant leaps – let us. Let us take that risk, no matter when it may be. Ultimately at the end of the day, it will be us who have to deal with the aftermath – good or bad – of our decision. The best part of it, is it will have no effect on your life whatsoever.
So with that in mind, let people love who they want to love when they want to love them. Do not put a timeline on when things should happen within a relationship, because life is unexpected. People come and people go, but when the right person walks into your life , that is something you will never plan on happening.