Don’t Let It Define You

Understanding the numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity.

The hardest part of my weight loss journey has always been stepping on a scale. At one point in time, I became so obsessed that I weighed myself everyday thinking I was going to see a miraculous change. I did nothing but constantly put a burden on myself. Why was it such a burden? There are so many things that can affect your weight; that weighing yourself on a daily basis will only trick you.

It’s safe to say, if you’re like most people, you want to see results that justify the hard work and dedication you’ve put in. More often than not, that result is seeing that numerical number on the scale go down. Truth be told; our weight fluctuates.

According to MyFitnessPal, weight fluctuations are common because your weight is determined by a variety of factors. These include but are not limited to how hydrated you are, what you recently ate, your bathroom habits, the climate and your exercise routine. A few pounds of weight are usually not a result of fat gain but a result of your body doing exactly what it needs to do to regulate its physiological functions.

Weighing yourself daily may work for some while weighing yourself weekly may work better for others. Some weigh themselves more often for accountability. However, the question I always have is whether or not weighing so frequently is actually benefiting or deteriorating our fitness journey.

I hesitate with answering my own curiosity because it can go both ways. A woman deciding to see the numbers on the scale can be for motivation. BUT – there are women, like myself, who can get quickly discouraged by seeing that number; especially if it’s not what they want to see.

For so long, I allowed the scale to define who I was as a woman. I let a numerical number speak for me instead of speaking for myself. To be honest, sometimes I’m still challenged with those thoughts. If the scale reads higher than what I want it to, I convince myself that my worth and value is nowhere near good enough.

Until one day, I was at the gym with my best friend and saw something posted up in front of the scale.

“This scale can’t tell you how smart, funny, kind, loving, brave, or strong you are. It doesn’t decide if you are worthy of love and respect. It just tells you your relationship with gravity.

Low and behold, it hit me. This machine, this scale… it can’t define me. It doesn’t have the capacity to tell the world who I am and what I’m capable of bringing to the table. All that it tells me is the numerical reflection of my relationship with gravity.

A lot of people don’t realize that health and fitness is mental. It’s so psychological that we don’t even realize. We psych ourselves out. Our doubt and lack of confidence gets the best of us.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you shouldn’t weigh yourself regularly. It can be a useful tool for tracking progress; but at the same time, it’s good to realize that the numbers you are seeing aren’t always an accurate representation of what your body is doing.

If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this, it’s to not get discouraged.. DO NOT! When you feel like giving up, or that it’s a waste of time, or it’s taking to long to reach your end goal… remember this; nothing worth having comes easy. Remind yourself why you started in the first place.

Our bodies, are our vessels; they can do amazing things. You just have to be willing to tune out the doubt and tune into your goals. When women believe they can, they will.

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